Attending a Wedding and Going Gray? Here’s 5 Quick Fixes

June 3, 2022 (updated May 8, 2023) — Written by

Odds are pretty good that there’s a wedding on your calendar this year with 2022 slated to have more weddings than we’ve seen since 1984. Do you need a little inspo on how to wear your gray hair for the big event? We’ve got 5 quick wedding hair fixes for you!

a woman in an olive colored dress stands in front of a mural

By: Lisa Fennessy


Apparently 2022 will have the most weddings since the summer of 1984. This leads me to two questions. First, why am I not invited to any weddings this summer?! And second, what happened in 1984??? 

Regardless of my own dusty dance card and this elusive 1984 love match anomaly, one of the recurring FAQs at TNK is “What are some wedding hair options when my hair is half gray and half not??” 

Growing out gray hair can be hard enough on the daily but then throw in a day you are supposed to look your absolute best and it’s an instant cortisol flood to the system. This is especially true for mothers of the bride or mothers of the groom who are about to lock in pics and memories that will “last a lifetime”.

Like no big deal, just say cheese Deborah while I snap this here pic of little Charlie and you…that he will then frame and give you next Mother’s Day and expect to see it on your wall every time he comes over again and again for the rest of your life. #kiddingnotkidding

Well if this rings true for you, we’ve got 5 quick wedding hair fixes that will have you stepping out like YES, I AM THIS GORGEOUS AND YES, I AM THE MOTHER OF THE BRIDE, WUT.

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1. Go full on British and wear a cute hat

I mean, why can’t we all be more British in general? I love a good tea time, I like Roy Kent and I can GET DOWN with some fish and chips. So why are we not all wearing cute hats more often? If wearing a hat seems like a stretch, you don’t have to go all wild and crazy. Pick a cute, tasteful one and rock that ish out!

a woman with a raspberry pillbox hat looks down towards her floral dress
Image courtesy of Hicks & Brown
a woman in a navy dress wears a large hat adorned with flowers and leave
Image courtesy of the Etsy shop CalaByLilian
a woman in a blue dress and hat stands in front of a wall of greenery
Image courtesy of Annabel Allen Millinery
the top view of a woman in a white feathery hat with pink nail polish
Image courtesy of Celina Kane Bridal Millinery
a woman with long blonde hair holds a glass of rose and wears a hat
Image courtesy of Hicks & Brown

2. Try a temporary root spray

I’ve never personally tried a temporary root spray but several women in The Gray Book have and recommend it as a viable option. This is a spray people use to bridge the gap between hair dye appointments. You apply it to dry hair and then it washes out with your next shampooing. From my quick search, I didn’t find any “clean options” so I would just recommend going with something that has the best reviews AND for the love of Pete, do a test run before the big day. 

before and after photos of a root spray on a woman's hair
Image courtesy of Nevermore Lane
before and after using root spray on red hair
Image courtesy of Girl Get Glamorous

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3. Highlights or lowlights or both

If you are looking for something a little more permanent, you can consider highlights or lowlights or both. This has been a successful grow out method for several women as it helps to blend the demarcation between dyed hair and virgin hair. (We’ve found this method works best for people who have lighter hair to begin with and is not always a great fit option for people with darker hair or red hair but it could still work for you!).

a woman with curly black hair and lighter highlights looks straight at the camera
Image courtesy of Janae Hargrett of Curl Creation Salon
the side view of a woman with gray hair and creamy blonde highlights
Image courtesy of Liz Lazo of Fox and Jane Salon
the side view of a woman growing out gray hair with added highlights
Image courtesy of Becca Chipp Hair

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4. Try braids

Braids are one of my favorite things to do with my hair now that it’s gray. The added dimension from all the different shades of gray just make the braids POP. But braids are also a great option for that middle ground when you are still growing out your hair as well. The bends and twists help soften the line between dyed hair and undyed hair. You can also consider multiple braids, headband braids, one big fatty braid or a fun braided updo. 

the back of a woman's head as she french braids her hair
Gray haired woman wearing a braid
Image courtesy of Katerina Kortusova
a woman with a braided updo at the independent spirit awards
Michelle Chen Source: Jordan Strauss/Getty Images North America
a woman with a braided partial updo
Image courtesy of Gaby Garcia Salon
a woman with a bubble ponytail looks off to the side
Image courtesy of Pinterest

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5. Flip that mindset switch 

You knew I was going to say it, lol, because I always do! I promise, wedding day or not, no one is as concerned about your hair as you are. It feels big to you but it is very small to everyone else. Sure they might look at your hair and sure they might even judge it but the very next second they will be asking the caterer how they can dare serve a filet mignon without béarnaise sauce. Don’t let someone else’s thought patterns run your emotions or your experience. These two things are not connected! 

And last, but not least, get ready to create some memories. Enjoy this very special day with your son or daughter or your fill-in-the-blank special person. No one is going to look back and remember your gray hair. They are going to look back and remember your laugh, your heart and your spirit. 

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Have you attended a wedding while you were growing out your gray hair? What did you do? 

xo, lisa in cursive

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By Lisa Fennessy

Lisa is the founder of The New Knew. Passionate about clean beauty, organic eats and nontoxic lifestyle, Lisa writes to create awareness. Conscious consumerism and informed decisions will impact the marketplace, our health and THE WORLD!

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